By Bella Lorefice – Contributor

Have you ever gone to a restaurant and spent 20+ minutes trying to decide on what to order? Have you ever deconstructed your room trying to put an outfit together? Have you ever taken an hour scrolling through Netflix trying to decide on what to watch just to end up rewatching The Office? Are you also chronically indecisive? If so, congratulations, you chose the right article.

Now, if you are reading this because you are looking for some advice on becoming more decisive, you are in the wrong place. I am here to simply validate your (and my) indecisiveness. Being indecisive is tough; it can be seen as a character flaw, and often portrays us indecisive folk with a negative connotation. Its as if we don’t know what we want, or don’t have our shit together when in reality, this is often not the case. Even if you are someone who is typically quite confident in your decisions, I’m almost certain you can relate to those scary, important choices that can make you feel confined or closed off to other possibilities, like opening one door is closing all the others, which is a scary look into the mind of an indecisive person. Why does making a decision on my Subway sandwich toppings feel like I’m signing a contract with the universe? Sometimes we are indecisive because we want to choose something great and that really puts the pressure on. Sometimes, decisions are hard because there are so many factors to weigh; they just overwhelm you in a cesspool of possible scenarios, and many times, decisions are hard because we want to take other people’s feelings into consideration.

If I could give you one piece of advice: never go to the grocery store with your indecisive friend unless you are very, very patient; the grocery store is a place of certain panic over minor decisions. The same issue with the mall: do I spend an hour in Sephora to walk out with nothing because I love looking, or because I couldn’t choose what shade of lip liner I wanted.

I once spent three hours in a Sportchek with my dad trying to pick out a hockey stick, I ended up getting the first one I touched.
Sometimes, the right choice feels so serious – like do or die – what if I choose wrong? It can be scary, but sometimes we fail to realize it’s not that deep. We should take a long deep breath and remember life isn’t a multiple-choice question (except for when it is multiple choice, then I’m f*cked). So whether you’re a perfectionist, an overthinker, anxious or plainly human, know that there is good sentiment behind your personal qualities you don’t love. Maybe small decisions make you spiral, but maybe that’s okay. After all, you want the best and you should.