Dear Whitney,
I was wondering if it’s wrong to keep having sex with someone if to them, it’s a representation of strong emotional attachment, and to you it’s just another way to have fun and de-stress?
–Lust
Dear L,
Let me be frank. YES! Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with a little no-strings-attached nasty—but only, and I mean only if both parties agree on the terms. If the person that you’re doing the nasty with believes it’s leading to a relationship, or grounded in something deeper, you’re completely misleading your fuck buddy, and I can guarantee things won’t last! If you want to continue getting away with this noncommittal behaviour, you have to sit your partner down, explain that it’s heading nowhere and that you’re only looking for something casual. Chances are, if they really believed sex between the two of you was a representation of some strong emotional attachment, they may be a little pissed—but your honesty will be appreciated in the long run. Maybe.
Love,
Whitney
